Primitive European marriages were brought about by capture. When a man saw a woman he wanted, he took a trusted friend to her home. The friend warded off the attacks of the girl’s kinsmen while the suitor stole her away. The custom of having a best man at weddings survives from this prehistoric raiding expedition. Today’s marriages have three parts: (1) a betrothal (an old English word meaning faith or trust) –a promise to marry; (2) the nuptial–the ceremony surrounding the marriage, and (3) the marriage–the moment the man and woman start sharing the same bed. When a couple becomes betrothed, they make a firm commitment to marriage–an agreement to trust one another. Their Love, intelligence, and inner beauty are conveyed to their babies and that is the way little children know what is inside them. Otherwise, they do not know who they are. Practically all babies are born into an atmosphere containing a reliability of their mothers in taking care of them–and absent any screening test to see if mother or others qualify. Able to be “depended upon” with confidence gave rise to human Trust in African Tradition–something which one projects onto others. As babies grow and bring others into their “Reliability Atmosphere,” they encounter reliability inconsistencies—meaning all supporting reasons and evidence are not always working together. And sometimes they contradict each other. Children overlook these flaws in some but object strongly in others, usually to the point of this causing philosophical and psychic trauma with Distrust. Thus, they can Trust some people about some things but rarely trust anyone, except parents, for everything. This means Secular “Trust,” as with Secular “Faith” and “Beliefs,” is self-controllable and has degrees.
Other forms of Secular Trust are indicated by the Ideas dating to Old Norse: ‘help, confidence, firmness.’ These generate more Confusion by also being the definitions in Secular “Faith” and “Beliefs” + all 3 being improperly considered as synonyms. Another example of interchangeable names given for the same thing + interchangeable meanings existing in different words is seen in the ancient Greeks translating “Trust” as “Expectations” or “Hope” or “Faith.” As if that is not bad enough, improper translations of Trust out of different languages are typical and ongoing–with each language giving it more than one meaning. Throughout the Western world “Trust” originally had the sense of strong belief related to having confidence in–whether God (2 Kings 18:5; Ps. 37:3), human beings (Prov. 28:26; 31:11), or inanimate objects (Prov. 11:28; Jer. 7:4). But, as a means of controlling Enslaved African Americans (e.g. to keep them from running away) and perhaps reflecting Europeans’ addiction to Fear, White preachers imaginatively said: trust in God (‘take refuge in’) to fulfill all the promises Scriptures make to Christians + have fear of God since fear causes one to “not take any chances” of going against God. Otherwise, God will punish severly. Though these statements suggest humans are helpless, always in danger, and rushing to find secure hiding places out of fear of a “punisher God,” none of this conforms to God’s loving ways and are opposite to teachings in the parent Ancient African Bible.
Rather, Ancient African Sages–ultimate models of honorableness, integrity, and knowledge (e.g. from Circumstantial Evidence)–said: “Know that God neither punishes nor rewards nor protects; that you will have the comfort of controlling these for yourself” (Law of Herukhuti). Despite countless religions and non-religious definitions for (Secular) Trust, many lack a Base/Foundation being based on Knowing God exists and/or lack Spiritual Faith Certainty in God’s manifestations. Non-religious Secular Trust definitions include: removing all doubt from what one figures out in daily living; the Trust of “frozen” optimism formed out of ones Faith in something; acccepting someone as possessing a true good character and extending to them a bond of trust; and several related to financial matters. Jabaileymd.com
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