EUROPEAN MANHOOD COMPETITION (8)
Apart from running, jumping, and climbing, children’s Imitative Stage of doing everything they see elders do is up to age 6. The Individual Competition stage (e.g. games of tag and hide and seek) is between 6 and 12. Throughout teen life is the development of a Team Spirit in organized sports. Purposeful teamwork Play trains boys in cooperation and loyalty. If teamwork is well-done, boys learn about how to deal with competitors and fashion ways to win or to “save face”. Armed with its newly acquired rational aspects of what to do and not do, as childhood is left behind, males become increasingly competitively oriented–spurred by their Human Nature drive to feel self-positive. Most seek to identify with groups and garner additional senses of self-definition and philosophies from those affiliations. In African Tradition, competition is about teaching systems of values associated with the hard-work required for “ME/WE” teamwork + the persistence needed to achieve goals. It does not concern money issues. The approach in European society differs completely. It follows the generic process of: (1) Categorizing—the simplifying of the age, gender, and race of people into groups as well as objects into categories; (2) Self-Identifying—i.e. aligning oneself with a particular group(s) to gain a special or distinctive identity from association for the benefit of an enhanced self-esteem–and merely paying the price of total commitment to do so; and (3) Comparing—i.e. judging oneself in relation to ones own “in-group” as well as to “out-groups”. The focus is mainly on External world values (e.g. power, fame) in order to have a positive self-evaluation of success.
At face value, nothing is wrong with sharing identity with ones selected Crowd. But problems arise when: (a) this is done at the expense of giving up ones own Real Self uniqueness so as to blend with and be directed by the Crowd; (b) when one establishes unfounded prejudices on “Faceless” stereotyped people—using that as an excuse to “lock them out”; (c) identifying with a group whose philosophy of life is outside the Spiritual Elements; and (d) identifying with a good in-group but then giving bad ratings to any out-group with differing ideas and ways not in conformity with ones in-group. Such assigning of a “downward social status” to out-groups, without just cause, reflects the assigner is plagued with Insecurity from a “Raw Nerve”—a personal weakness one keeps hidden from others by using such aggressive methods as Projection and Deflection. “Deflection” aims to draw attention away from ones own “Dark Side Sickness” by putting a floodlight on what is supposedly outrageous about happenings of ones Targeted Scapegoat(s). Projection is using ones own “Dark Side” internal ideas (reality) to paint it on out-group members. Meanwhile, those same ideas are fashioned to fuse with the corresponding human-made external (unreality) of fellow in-group cult members. Both Projection and Deflection are superiority complex tools for distancing oneself/ones group from their own delusional Selves + distance themselves from their scapegoats + keep fellow cult members at a distance from the “Raw Nerve” one is trying to hide.
This Triad of Distancing is complicated when a cult’s scapegoats are envied for an assortment of things those cult bullies can never achieve. Nevertheless, the Triad of Distancing is followed by efforts to switch from a self-hated self-esteem, with its associated Inferiority Complex, all the way over to a Superiority Complex. Their aim for denigrating and oppressing others is to: (1) fashion a “little god” Self-Image to use as an excuse for arrogance; (2) show tangible proof to rivals of their “Manhood”; (3) self-promote so as to be viewed favorably among ones cult peers; and (4) to Intimidate scapegoats. The Triad + ones False Self greatness + the “selfie” shining of a spotlight are exacerbated (i.e. a “flare-up” or intensification to hide emotional pain stemming from their inflamed psychological “Raw Nerve”) when, first ones self-esteem is threatened; second, when one discovers one has identified with a low rung of the status ladder group; and third, when one is in a feared situation that alerts ones Selfhood Alarm system. The actions or reactions triggered may be to apply more ‘juice’ on denigrating scapegoats; generating Delusional Fears among ones cult members or supporting Crowd; engaging in extra efforts to eliminate the power of scapegoats; and/or increasing the pain and suffering of scapegoats as a means of exhibiting power over “inferiors.” jabaileymd.com