CRITICALLY THINKING LOVE/HATE RELATIONSHIPS
A “love/hate” relationship is a purely European invention–mainly because they convert African Tradition’s spiritually boundless Unconditional Love into a Material world “Conditional” form that possesses boundaries and relativity. Those enable their “Emotional” oriented version of love to be placed on a pole opposite of hate. As is typical in such “What!!!” beliefs, they go on to “prove” it by saying “scientific evidence” shows the brain’s putamen and insula are both involved in feelings of contempt and disgust, along with being activated by romantic love. They continue: the nervous circuits in ones brain are responsible for producing feelings of hatred–the same ones used to produce emotions of romantic love. Passionate mates share some similarities–e.g. being so extremely emotional as to do irrational, heroic, or even evil things. Here, love can be extremely dangerous, and people have committed the most horrific crimes in the name of love (and religion). That, they believe, lends “support” to their “clinical investigations” and is the source of such currently popular European derived concepts as: First, the characterization of “love-hate” relationships as simultaneous or alternating emotions of love and hate applicable to people, inanimate objects, concepts, or oneself. Second, human causes embrace the loss of intimacy within a loving relationship and yet retain some Passion for and/or commitment to each other; the good emotions (wrongly considered synonymous with “Feelings”) turn into boredom and staleness, invoking a sense of not being alive or excited any longer; one party feels indebted and forges a friendship but still holds a grudge over something; some form of affection or attraction occurs between allies, despite mutual hate; and viewing different aspects of a person differently, as loving his riches but hating how he humiliates her. Since these causes and symptoms “SEEM” to the public and researchers as “Syndrome Right”, the effects which naturally follow are that to view ones relationship as all good or all bad is a sign of low self-esteem, powered by chronic concern over being accepted or not. As a result, when one possesses “great certainty” (as if there are degrees of “Certain”), one has an urge to seek “uncertainty.” So, when things are good and one feels “safe,” the partner is idealized. Otherwise, focus is on all possible negatives so as to justify withdrawing from that partner and not risking vulnerability. The conclusion following this “logic” is that the love-hate roller-coaster ride is quite normal, adding the soothing reason that Emotions fluctuate on a daily or hourly basis and thus so can how one feels about ones partner. Their wrong track summary is “this periodic shift of focus of attention of ones judgment accounts for a love-hate relationship.”
Apart from this flimsy pseudo-intellectual assessment shatterning Critical Thinking (CT), none of it makes any sense in African Tradition–obviously being far, far off the Spiritual path. Complicating this is confusing Earth World definitions of emotions, hatred, and romantic love. They cannot possibly be synonyms for “Feelings”–a Spiritual term in African etymology. A third factor is Prominent European Instrumentalism Religious Thinkers provided alternative theories to love and to God being the Creator of the Cosmos or, that after God created it, God “died.”
The Mechanical Cosmic Operation replacement theory says that by God being “dead” is not a problem because since natural laws operate in a mechanical Cause and Effect manner (i.e.–a construct or pile up together, build), no God is needed, for things already set up could now operate on their own. One of their justifications was that shapes are made of material but things operate without matter. For this subculture of Europeans, instruments are means, like patterns imposed on things by the mind, employed to attain an end–ends like information for decision making (which they mistakenly call “knowledge”) or the resolution of problematic situations. By most Europeans believing “knowledge” is something consisting of the possession of true ideas or hypotheses, they fashion patterns about such things (among others)–making no distinctions between Metaphysical, Spiritual, and Physical. When applied to love it is called Conditional Love–a love mechanically “put together” using parameters devised by European Instrumentalism Thinkers and by using them repetitiously as a way of life that they fashion so as to be in control of all people. jabaileymd.com
Joseph A. Bailey II, MD, FACS
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