The death of my beloved dog, Titan, has stimulated my thoughts for the four Memory Phases of the core of the Grieving Process: Phase I consist of Titan being normal and healthy; Phase II concerns when he became disabled; Phase III is the last hour of his life; and Phase IV, the after death grief. The Immaterial core of the Grieving Process begins with Phase II and in the form of anxiety over realizing Titan is on an obvious countdown to death. As signs clearly make evident the nearing of his death there comes fretting over hoping he will die quietly in his sleep. Otherwise, what will cause me to make the decision to “put him down” and will I have the courage to do so? I must think of what is best for him and not what I want for me. Phase III is about switching from the present moment to imagining his dying and what life will be like after he is gone. After he dies I step inside Phase IV’s core of Grief. So what do I do now? When starting to grieve in full force I call into action my previously mentioned preparations + reserves + time limit rule + boundaries in order to assist keeping me somewhat inside the confines of the turmoil brought in with the Grieving Process. Meanwhile, I follow my previously prepared inner core stepping stone pattern for it serves as a tow-rope throughout the Grieving Process.
Eastern teachers, following the path of Ancient Africans, encourage students to find out things for themselves, no matter how long it takes or how hard or how boring. In the process, one learns to focus on a thing for prolonged periods. Because there is so much to know about an important subject, when students stop focusing on one aspect concerning that subject they shift to another compartment of that same subject. However, Western world authorities “spoon-feed” so as to control the people. Thus their information discourages independent or critical thought or creative actions; generates delusions; and its “flashing lights” nature makes it enchanting and keeps one in a passive or trivia oriented mindset. Thus, one skips from one compartment to another in a manner that conforms to multi-tasking. When overdone one “shuts off” thinking of what one is doing in the moment while engaging in “Automatic Pilot” talking. It is this situation of lacking awareness of the surroundings that accounts for why many females are easy to attack while walking down the street. As a boy, not knowing about the unity of all Reality caused me to see the problems of life as endless in variety and number. The resolution of being so overwhelmed came from realizing there are only a few problem categories which can be analogized to a six-pack of sodas. Names for the cans are losses, lacks, obstructions, opposition, personal difficulties, and relationship problems. Similarly, each way of thought for handling these problems can be analogized as compartmentalized slots in a case of water bottles. In the Organized Slot Thinking one divides and shifts ones attention among tasks while emphasizing focus on what is most important.
An analogy for Unorganized types is a television station’s Master Control room,the technical hub of a broadcast operation. If it has 20 television monitors, undisciplined minds may have the same program on the 20 television monitors in their brains when they should be paying attention to life challenging problems. This means they are not dividing and shifting their attention but rather staying focused on what is not the most important. By contrast, scattered attention occurs from their multi-tasking during times when Critical Thinking (CT) is required. Perhaps their CT focus is on only one monitor and the rest on the 19 monitors presenting Attractive Distractions. Such is illustrated by teenagers driving a car and managing electronic tasks. Teens may be good with those tasks but most are not good at separating them and keeping their eyes on the road. The reason is the human brain develops from back to front and the last region to be completed is the prefrontal cortex where important task decisions are made. Adults have the foresight and forethought to keep looking back at the road. Whereas all of the required brain “wiring” is not fully connected until one reaches the early 20s, the negative emotions associated with Traumatized Thinking (TT) simply overwhelm the reasoning part of the brain. Thus, TT fails to accept the personal mental powers they know they possess and even forget they have the power to take charge and control of their lives. TT adversely affects perception of how things really are and that causes poor judgment. TT is continually involved in viewing all the separate “television” programs at once and that keeps their minds in a chaotic statewhich, of course, prevents the managing of even any mildly complex problem. Thus, they are easily led by incompetent and often evil intentioned people.
If self-help is not feasible, then outside help is needed in establishing rules to follow and ensuring those rules are followed. First, break the habit of “Switching off” thinking, emotional thinking, and doing things impulsively or out of habit. Second, practice focusing at every chance, as in counting ones breath. Third, think about every little thing one does and determine why it is done. Fourth, handle serious business with (guided) CT or the best CT one has available, for “practice makes perfect”.